>> We have a legal institution based on the idea of making another person be intertwined with you (which is currently seen as romantic). <<
I like seeing other cultures with different kinds of recognized relationships. So for instance, in Terramagne the Picts have a complex family system. A boy's brother-brother is his fondest male sibling (or cousin, because some of those are counted as siblings) and the two are expected to reserve some activities for their time together. You might choose fishing or bee-hunting or whatever for that, something you both like but your other clan-cousins aren't as interested in. They take that relationship very seriously, and they're used to juggling different kinds of connections.
>> We can, by media or the people around us, have very specific ideas of what these romances should be. <<
Conversely, if your identity or sexuality or whatever are off the beaten path, society may offer you no roadmap at all.
>> Your moiety on Planet O is decided by what the moiety your birth-mother is (morning birth-mom means you’re a morning person). <<
I have to wonder what they'd do with foundlings whose moiety is unknown. I could see a society wanting to mark infants at birth (e.g. with a tattoo or piercing) to avoid that problem as much as possible.
>>You, in this system, are expected to have a het & a gay relationship in the marriage<<
This reminds me of The Neanderthal Parallax, where each individual typically has a man-mate and a woman-mate. They live with their same-sex partner most of the time (the society is sex-segregated for comfort) and their opposite-sex partner for a few days "when two become one."
>>Would there be social/cultural identifiers about what moiety you’re in as to avoid the sacrilege?<<
It would almost have to be marked to avoid that. In human cultures with moeities, the marker can be in names or dress modes or often both. It may affect where you live in a camp or village because they usually have their own "neighborhood" for each moeity.
>>How socially acceptable is it to look for a 3rd/4rth?<<
I would suspect it's more common to merge two couples than build one-by-one. You can get a better fit one-by-one but people tend to look down on it in poly culture here; it's called "unicorn hunting." :/
>>How is jealousy culturally expected to be handled (because obviously it’s still going to happen)? <<
There are lots of constructive options for that, and you can find them in books on polyamory here. To which I point out, polyfolk don't have a sex fetish, they have a communication fetish.
>>With quadrants; you are expected to be in 4 different kinds of romance. <<
I like that diversity, and how it is intended to create balance in people's lives and feelings.
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Date: 2024-01-13 05:14 am (UTC)From:I like seeing other cultures with different kinds of recognized relationships. So for instance, in Terramagne the Picts have a complex family system. A boy's brother-brother is his fondest male sibling (or cousin, because some of those are counted as siblings) and the two are expected to reserve some activities for their time together. You might choose fishing or bee-hunting or whatever for that, something you both like but your other clan-cousins aren't as interested in. They take that relationship very seriously, and they're used to juggling different kinds of connections.
>> We can, by media or the people around us, have very specific ideas of what these romances should be. <<
Conversely, if your identity or sexuality or whatever are off the beaten path, society may offer you no roadmap at all.
>> Your moiety on Planet O is decided by what the moiety your birth-mother is (morning birth-mom means you’re a morning person). <<
I have to wonder what they'd do with foundlings whose moiety is unknown. I could see a society wanting to mark infants at birth (e.g. with a tattoo or piercing) to avoid that problem as much as possible.
>>You, in this system, are expected to have a het & a gay relationship in the marriage<<
This reminds me of The Neanderthal Parallax, where each individual typically has a man-mate and a woman-mate. They live with their same-sex partner most of the time (the society is sex-segregated for comfort) and their opposite-sex partner for a few days "when two become one."
>>Would there be social/cultural identifiers about what moiety you’re in as to avoid the sacrilege?<<
It would almost have to be marked to avoid that. In human cultures with moeities, the marker can be in names or dress modes or often both. It may affect where you live in a camp or village because they usually have their own "neighborhood" for each moeity.
>>How socially acceptable is it to look for a 3rd/4rth?<<
I would suspect it's more common to merge two couples than build one-by-one. You can get a better fit one-by-one but people tend to look down on it in poly culture here; it's called "unicorn hunting." :/
>>How is jealousy culturally expected to be handled (because obviously it’s still going to happen)? <<
There are lots of constructive options for that, and you can find them in books on polyamory here. To which I point out, polyfolk don't have a sex fetish, they have a communication fetish.
>>With quadrants; you are expected to be in 4 different kinds of romance. <<
I like that diversity, and how it is intended to create balance in people's lives and feelings.